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Part 2: What does happiness have to do with self-love? What does happiness have to do with self-love? Did you also constantly hear as a child: “YOU ARE TOO… loud/ too quiet/ too annoying/ too fast/ too slow/ too defiant/ too lazy/ too arrogant…. I think we all know this more or less. We could certainly extend this list considerably. That is how we were brought up, even if unconsciously. And from this, beliefs arise, which we often cannot even recognize anymore because they have become our own convictions. In any case, we have learned that we are simply NOT RIGHT. And certainly not good enough. Do you know that too? Then it is high time to clean it up inside YOU. As soon as we manage to work on these beliefs and love ourselves as we are, there is no longer any imperfection. It is often our particular characteristics that reveal our individual strengths. For example, behind a quiet person there may be a very empathetic, sensitive being who is an excellent listener. The energetic child who questions and investigates everything may be an inquiring mind. So far we have learned to be a functioning member of society, we have adapted as much as possible and wanted to be right. Could it be that exactly what we thought we had to change about ourselves and what has been sold to us as imperfection is exactly what defines us? I believe that when we absolutely love ourselves and understand how individual and unique we are, we can all see ourselves as PERFECT. It's not that the sun only shines for me every day and everything is always perfect. No, obviously new challenges are a part of life. But now I react differently to them and no longer spend long in a bad mood, but act consciously. I have now understood that LIFE IS ALWAYS FOR ME. That's why when I have problems and encounter difficult people, I ask myself what I can learn from them. Because other people are either friends or teachers. I used to always question myself straight away. But through self-love I can stand up for myself. What does self-love mean? In my opinion, this includes thoughts like: I am lovable, regardless of what I look like, how I feel, what I own...etc. Do I treat myself like I would treat a good friend? Is the relationship with me characterized by understanding, interest and goodwill? I can also ask myself whether I am the author of my own life or whether I am fulfilling the expectations of others. Do I take full responsibility for my life? My life is a response to my unconscious programs, thoughts and beliefs. Am I aware of these mechanisms? More on this in another blog post. Do I accept myself as I am? Perhaps that is why we love pets so much because they do not judge us by our appearance, but seem to be able to see into our hearts. How do I learn to love myself? Everything I accept can be transformed. As soon as we are aware of how we think about ourselves, we can take a closer look. What is good for me to believe about myself and what am I struggling with? We can now look at exactly that and accept it for the time being. It is also conceivable that we can already recognize the gift that lies in this shadow. Perhaps the chaotic person is particularly creative? The moment we consciously perceive and accept this characteristic, we can develop something special from it. In the future, the quiet listener will be highly valued in some circles as an empathetic, understanding person who also has something to say. Dare to take a closer look, because it will increase your quality of life enormously. At least that was the case for me. Work on your beliefs or get help with it. One way to change it yourself is THE WORK by Byron Katie, which I can recommend. Try it out, it will also increase your self-confidence and inner peace. Isn't self-love selfish? The question often arises as to whether self-love isn't selfish. But there are very clear differences. Egoists do not put themselves in the shoes of their fellow human beings, they act inconsiderately, criticize a lot and think primarily of their own advantage. Egoists are neither compassionate nor mindful. People who love themselves take responsibility, can admit mistakes and no longer constantly look for someone to blame. They are authentic, have confidence in themselves and their abilities. People who love themselves are considerate and loving towards themselves and those around them. The more you love yourself, the more you can love and accept other people as they are. If you are looking for people who treat each other lovingly, then come to our community LIEBEVOLL.JETZT . https://liebevoll.jetzt/ . You are also very welcome in the COMMUNITY with HEART https://community-mit-herz.com/ . Here you will find authentic people who bring their heart's calling into the world. In my LebenFreude group you will receive daily inspiration that is linked to self-photographed nature photos. If you would like to find out more about me or are looking for individual gift ideas, please visit my website. Here, a love of nature is combined with encouraging or inspiring thoughts. Katja from LebenFreude www.LebenFreude.net

Katja from Lebenfreude | Sep 27, 2024 | Lebensfreude NO! Not anymore! Not with me anymore. I've had enough!Are you fed up with judging, fighting, and being against each other?Does HIGHER, FASTER, FURTHER get on your nerves too?Are you simply longing for peace, happiness, security, joy and safety?Then you've come to the right place, then I want to take you into my world. I wake up every morning with a happy feeling and can already feel a gentle smile on my face. Great, a new WONDERful day is ahead that I can shape. My heart leaps for joy, I stretch my limbs and greet the day. It will be fulfilling again and bring lots of beautiful moments of happiness. Now you might be shouting at me angrily: "If you only knew what I have to do today! It's easy for you to say!" I understand your thoughts completely, because that's how I thought for decades. "How? And now you're suddenly jumping out of bed for joy?" you call out to me. YES! Because I love my life and NOW I consciously shape it every day. Today I would just like to give you a few initial suggestions on how you too can be happy: Be thankful! "What for, for all the crap, the illnesses, the constant conflicts and the fact that there is never enough money?" you cry out again, indignantly. For the things that are WONDERFUL and seemingly self-evident. If you want to change your life, then spend one day consciously being grateful for everything that comes to mind. It could be something like this: I am grateful for my breath, which naturally nourishes my body, for my heart, which beats tirelessly, for my two healthy legs that carry me through life, for my hands that can grasp, for my eyes that discover so many WONDERFUL things in this world... I am so very grateful that I was able to sleep in a soft down duvet and the feathers kept me so comfortably warm, I am grateful to have a roof over my head and to be able to eat delicious things today. I am grateful that cars were invented and that I can get to work so easily... You can see from the examples that you can extend the list infinitely. If you want to be happier, try it consistently for one day. Become a lucky person through your new awareness! Determine your own feeling Would you like to feel good? "Of course!" you will answer. We have learned that thinking, speaking and acting are our tools for creating. Feelings are a reaction to what we have experienced, that is how it was explained to us. If we have experienced something annoying, we feel bad and if we have experienced something great, we feel good. That is how we have experienced it and implemented it so far. Each of us wants to have positive events in life, we learn strategies and try to achieve the best possible results with pleasant feelings. But now pay attention! In addition to thinking, speaking and acting, there is another tool: FEELING! According to quantum physics, our feelings have a powerful influence. If that is really the case, we can actively influence our daily lives. Try it out: go into the feeling of being in love. Isn't everything around you wonderful and simply great at that moment? Now think of a feeling of unhappiness. One thing goes wrong and then even more crap happens and then this too! I think you know what I'm talking about. It's also said that misfortune rarely comes alone. Let's finally stop being emotionally reactive and instead become creators of our own feelings. If you like, do a tiny exercise: sit up straight, back straight and head upright and consciously start smiling. Hold on for five minutes. How do you feel afterwards? Has it stayed the same? Or has something changed? Do you notice that you can consciously influence your emotional state? Even with this tiny exercise. We ourselves are the creators of our lives, but more about that in another blog post. Connect with like-minded people You are not alone! I am overwhelmed that I am meeting more and more people who feel the same way I do. They feel that the world cannot continue as it is now. They feel that instead there should be a TOGETHERNESS and FOR EACH OTHER. A world in which everyone can be who they are, simply accepted and loved. The more you love yourself, the more you can love and accept others as they are. But that brings us back to a new topic, that of self-love, which will be discussed in another blog post. Now feel invited to join a community of like-minded people, in our WONDERFUL COMMUNITY with heart Here you will find various offers in our diverse groups and WIRKshops. If you feel addressed, please come to my LebenFreude group , because life is simply great joy. There I combine motivation/inspiration with photos that I have taken in nature. I especially love photographing things that hardly anyone sees, but that can delight our hearts. Nature is so rich in beauty, it is constantly giving itself away to us and we can direct our attention there. Please also visit my website: www.LebenFreude.net Katja from LebenFreude