Part 2: What does happiness have to do with self-love?
What does happiness have to do with self-love?
Did you also constantly hear as a child: “YOU ARE TOO… loud/ too quiet/ too annoying/ too fast/ too slow/ too defiant/ too lazy/ too arrogant….
I think we all know this more or less. We could certainly extend this list considerably. That is how we were brought up, even if unconsciously.
And from this, beliefs arise, which we often cannot even recognize anymore because they have become our own convictions.
In any case, we have learned that we are simply NOT RIGHT. And certainly not good enough.
Do you know that too?
Then it is high time to clean it up inside YOU.
As soon as we manage to work on these beliefs and love ourselves as we are, there is no longer any imperfection. It is often our particular characteristics that reveal our individual strengths. For example, behind a quiet person there may be a very empathetic, sensitive being who is an excellent listener. The energetic child who questions and investigates everything may be an inquiring mind.
So far we have learned to be a functioning member of society, we have adapted as much as possible and wanted to be right.
Could it be that exactly what we thought we had to change about ourselves and what has been sold to us as imperfection is exactly what defines us?
I believe that when we absolutely love ourselves and understand how individual and unique we are, we can all see ourselves as PERFECT.
It's not that the sun only shines for me every day and everything is always perfect. No, obviously new challenges are a part of life. But now I react differently to them and no longer spend long in a bad mood, but act consciously. I have now understood that LIFE IS ALWAYS FOR ME. That's why when I have problems and encounter difficult people, I ask myself what I can learn from them. Because other people are either friends or teachers.
I used to always question myself straight away. But through self-love I can stand up for myself.
What does self-love mean?
In my opinion, this includes thoughts like: I am lovable, regardless of what I look like, how I feel, what I own...etc.
Do I treat myself like I would treat a good friend?
Is the relationship with me characterized by understanding, interest and goodwill?
I can also ask myself whether I am the author of my own life or whether I am fulfilling the expectations of others. Do I take full responsibility for my life?
My life is a response to my unconscious programs, thoughts and beliefs. Am I aware of these mechanisms?
More on this in another blog post.
Do I accept myself as I am? Perhaps that is why we love pets so much because they do not judge us by our appearance, but seem to be able to see into our hearts.
How do I learn to love myself?
Everything I accept can be transformed.
As soon as we are aware of how we think about ourselves, we can take a closer look. What is good for me to believe about myself and what am I struggling with? We can now look at exactly that and accept it for the time being. It is also conceivable that we can already recognize the gift that lies in this shadow. Perhaps the chaotic person is particularly creative? The moment we consciously perceive and accept this characteristic, we can develop something special from it. In the future, the quiet listener will be highly valued in some circles as an empathetic, understanding person who also has something to say. Dare to take a closer look, because it will increase your quality of life enormously. At least that was the case for me.
Work on your beliefs or get help with it.
One way to change it yourself is THE WORK by Byron Katie, which I can recommend.
Try it out, it will also increase your self-confidence and inner peace.
Isn't self-love selfish?
The question often arises as to whether self-love isn't selfish. But there are very clear differences.
Egoists do not put themselves in the shoes of their fellow human beings, they act inconsiderately, criticize a lot and think primarily of their own advantage. Egoists are neither compassionate nor mindful.
People who love themselves take responsibility, can admit mistakes and no longer constantly look for someone to blame. They are authentic, have confidence in themselves and their abilities. People who love themselves are considerate and loving towards themselves and those around them. The more you love yourself, the more you can love and accept other people as they are.
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Katja from LebenFreude
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